The Forever Girl

“A girl you going to always fuck with, but yall not together” -Urban Dictionary

An old yet now popularized title is the “Forever Girl”. She’s the person that this guy never lets go and keeps around in the cut. She’s probably an ex or someone that they couldn’t get right with fully, but remained in their life. This woman is someone that always have their back and vice versa. There's a bond there that no one understands, but them. As the new girl in a man’s life one thing I suggest is never “compete” with this girl. It’s never that serious to compete with any woman let alone one with this title. I have 3 reasons why you shouldn’t. Reason one.. She may not know you exist. There’s a possibility she’s the odd one out here. Of course,there are the ones that are aware and still don’t care because she knows he allows it. Reason two, find someone else. There’s more than one good option. Don’t go settle, however, I can garuntee there’s a man with less baggage that can love you and only you. Reason three. Kids are involved. This may be the mother of his child or he stepped up as a parent when they were together. Sometimes that love doesn’t die or they feel that they have to be a certain way to this person for the sake of the kid’s and their relationships. Also, they are in love and he’s a “can’t get right” and she hasn’t went back YET.  If the connection is more than what he says by all means remove yourself. When you and your brain, heart, and stomach( the three minds) all feel something isn’t right it’s not. There may be a day when he has to choose between the two… How will you feel when her needs or feelings are more important than yours? Her life story and growth seems like the focus over you? Could you really take it? There’s history, time, laughter, sex, and love in these situations that you can’t take away or change.. It’s a lot! If you have a choice like you’re not in love or haven’t had sex I say walk fully away. The world and his life stops for her and the thing I don’t want you to do is think you’re not good enough or someone else is better than you. Save yourself the wondering when he doesn’t answer or he’s weird due to something in her life he can’t make right for her. It’s a bigger blow when you expect change in a situation that never changes.

To The Forever Girl: sis if he won’t marry you and make you a forever wife or just simply fully commit to you don’t accept this. You deserve more than this. It’s cute when we’re kids and young but, where’s the stability in that? What if he chooses this other woman over you? Are you going to continue to interfere? Do you think this is the only man that can love you? I hope you don’t allow this history to hinder you.