100/100

So women(Men too) I have to say... We have to remain whole in these relationships. The biggest reason we feel like our life is wrapped around this person, and the relationship is toxic...More than likely you've lost yourself. Everything became US and more than likely you forgot about you. Of course it seems like we can't function without them; we stopped watering ourselves. We stopped dressing up, we gained the "happy" weight, we lost our boundaries, and stopped saying no. Some of us(ME) tried to change for our relationship that we don't identify with either person. Now we have to start back over and face everything and fully step away from the relationships... Like no contact(Text, Facebook, email, twitter, Cash app lol) This will be hard because if all I know is us where do I go from here? You just have to start... Fill your cup up to an overflow, that way you're still satisfying you and you still are able to give to them. 50/50 is cool, but 100/100 should be the goal. You'd be so centered that when you decide to leave it's not based on surface level things. You would know for a fact this wasn't where you wanted to be. Then if you stay You know that this is where you belong and what you want. Like don't allow yourself to love on someone else so hard, because you can't love yourself..... Thinking that loving on them and making them happy will fill that void and that only makes it deeper. Then once they're gone you're stuck.. Build yourself a foundation rooted in self love and God, that no matter how your house shakes or falls apart you will know you're secure.

To know happiness you have to be happy!