Oh Baby

If I don’t have children by 27 I’m not having any.

-Geornikqua Butler at the age of 25.

Yes, that is a true statement from me and my 27th birthday is approaching. Does that statement stand the same? I don’t know. Children are wonderful blessings and truly are gifts from THE MOST HIGH to you. They are their own little person not just your child. So don’t have children for selfish reasons like to keep a man or you think it’ll make you happy when you need to fix it before bringing a shining light into the world. It’s not fair to make them your experiment to happiness. Think about this what if you don’t shake that sadness? What’s does that do to them? Moving right along. Everyone in my life has told me to be patient and take my time. At times I’m like ok and others I’m comfortable with the thought of not having any… other days I think I won’t ever or can’t have one. Now don’t get so emotional about it, I just feel like my nieces and nephews need me to plant fruit into them and multiply their mind as well as the children I will touch later in life. The phrase “be fruitful and multiply” has changed for me if you didn’t pay attention to my words above. I feel like if I don’t have children what I can plant into someone else will expand them and make the world better. For the right man and family values I will have his children, but I have to name them. All the names mean something to me. I have names based on my fave color green, based on my interest in the moon and the earth, and other things I like. He will have to get over it if he wants those babies out of me lol. I’ve seen myself as a mother though. I had a big fro singing Luther Vandros and sweeping. Like literally with my own eyes and had the biggest smile on my face being kissed by a man that made the smile bigger. It’s so crazy, but as of now my mind isn’t made up. Children aren’t just little handbags they are full commitments. Ladies if y’all don’t want babies PLEASE don’t allow anyone to pressure you. It’s ok to not want that responsibility. You could be motherly and caring in other ways in your life. Don’t be unhappy trying to please others. If for whatever reason you want to abort a child don’t do it and regret it please be strong in your decision. Don’t allow anyone to down you for yourself decision, because I bet they won’t help you when you need it. Support system is everything as well with children. If you lack the support system it makes having children or one child hard compared to others. Just because you have a child doesn’t mean your life stops. Doesn’t mean you no longer work, you don’t have friends anymore, spouse, and other responsibilities such as bills and personal upkeep. You need a healthy balance to run properly. Babies are just more than having sex, getting pregnant, and having a baby. It’s deciding what school you want them to go to, what extracurricular activities they’ll be in, how you’ll steer them because you raise crops, and etc. I say take your time if you can. Who cares who won’t have a small baby to rock in their 30s so what that’s not your journey. Do you baby doll do you. Just don’t feel pressured, because you’re at the 25 marker. I know people who had their first child in their 30s and their child is having a blast and so are the parents. They take trips, go to museums, try different foods, experience other cultures, and all kinds of things. That couple and person are also at a steady point in their lives so their daughter brought an expansion of great change and not just another bill of stress…. Even though children can be stressfull it’s easier when you don’t have to wonder if you’ll be able to take care of them and yourself comfortably. I say do what fits you have a child now or later just love them properly, show them it’s ok to love, they’re appreciated, they’re capable of anything, tell them you’re sorry when you’re wrong, think before you discipline, know the difference between a mistake and on purpose…. I could on and on, but I should hush because i don’t fully know and most of y’all will say what do I know I don’t have a child. I don’t, but I talk to them and I love on them and nurture them to the point where I just hear our children. Some of them are dying inside because they aren’t being loved properly, one day I’ll fix. Until then mother’s and fathers get yourselves together!!! IF YOU ARENT RIGHT YOUR HOUSE ISNT RIGHT. Just because your mama did it to you don’t mean it has to be done them. 💚

Please be on the look out for “Oh Baby Part 2: Baby or No Baby” for further details on abortion and adoption.