Level Up!

Level: n. a position on a real or imaginary scale of amount, quantity, extent, or quality.

-Oxford Languages

As women we are always looking for the best man to shape and grow our lives with. Not in a using way of course just ensuring security for you and your offsprings. Looking for the best candidate that checks all of our bubbles or most of them. Lately I’ve noticed a pattern in a lot of situations, and in my own, that we’re not on their level. Yes, I can say I’ve met a man or two where I wasn’t on their level or I simply fell off or I didn’t show up as the woman they preferred. A lot of times we don’t care for ourselves well, aren’t good with money, lazy, no ambition, no goals, insecure, sad/depressed, and I can go on and on. Then we turn around and expect a man of substance to just stick around in that. It may hurt, but the reality is at some point you’re either gonna grow, sink, or stay stagnant. Truly you can’t get mad at someone that was willing to grow with you and you go no where. I’ve felt this in about three stages of my life. Freshman year of college (19), 2016(21), and 2022(27). At 19, I went from a bright ambitious young woman ready for life and turned pretty lazy and full of procrastination. Essentially being left behind as he continued to graduate college. At 21 it was my first real adult “relationship” when I didn’t know what I was getting into and didn’t want to grow up. I honestly grew the most and learned a lot about myself here. I needed more emotional intelligence here. At 27 I just wasn’t as stable and secure as him. It honestly made me very insecure. Also, just realizing i was in Lala Land and not being realistic. Doing the work To keep a man is cool. However, anything you don’t do for yourself doesn’t stick. So always make changes that suit you for the better. No longer being a procrastinator and scared of success is a win. No longer leading with a childish mindset and fragile emotions is a win.  As well as, no longer being insecure about where I am and who I am is a plus. Now if you don’t think you need to level up that’s cool too there are some that will reach down and get you they are also great. In the mean time in between time be of good standard and have the ability to grow and change for the best options. As you level up the caliber, the bar changes the more opportunities you have outside of relationships.. your overall quality of living shifts. Also, remember to keep your center and love yourself first. I’m not saying this to be mad at yourself, I’m saying we all need to level up sometimes.

"Upgrade you and educate you Make you glad you changed Make you glad you came.."

Coco Jones x Caliber